I do have a question I’d like to pose to some of my transplant friends, of whatever organ or whatever status. I know that many transplant recipients feel compelled to write their donor families, yet how many have felt the urge to write a farewell note to their original organ(s)?
Maybe because I can be more open about grief, death, & other associated subjects, this doesn’t seem an odd question for me to ponder or ask at this point in my journey. Or maybe it’s just because today is the day I’ll find out how much mileage is still left on my old lungs & when I can anticipate possibly receiving new ones.
Of course with something so personal (if I chose to do it), I may not make it public. Still I guess that’s why I’m just even opening this dialogue now to see if anything like this has ever crossed another transplantee’s mind. I can’t put words in people’s mouths, or express what their organs mean to them, so I doubt I would post the letter, even if I actually do it. At least not here.
I just want to know (mainly) how my fellow members of transplant world feel about this in general? Or if they’ve done it or anything like it? Or even considered but couldn’t for some reason? Please allow me a moment to pick your brains.
I know I’ve been told a few isolated stories of quiet goodbyes & send-offs after surgery when some recipients have been shown their old organ(s). Perhaps that’s their way of doing that in lieu of a note or a letter. Maybe other people have said goodbye in other ways & methods but I just don’t know about them.
It just seems like something interesting to consider doing. Yet, maybe this idea just comes across as compelling to me because of the nature of my personality & how I usually express myself.
Maybe it’s too harsh, too weird, off-putting, or many other uncomfortable terms to others.
Yet, I’d welcome feedback on the subject from people who have been on this journey just to start a discussion about it.
If it’s too sensitive to comment directly to my blog, maybe it can be arranged for a private offline discussion or conversation. Or in a private group somewhere. (I do read comments before I approve them & they are shown).
It’s just something I’m really curious about. I want to see how others would perceive it this idea. If they think it could be a potential healing thing for someone else on this journey at some point or not & why.
Thanks for indulging me.