Stupid Phrases for People in Crisis

I am choosing to reblog this post today from another WordPress site, which I something I don’t do often. I chose to because I think it’s such an excellent & eloquently put posting. How often do well-meaning (yet clueless) people use such utterly misguided & hurtful phrases in their quest to provide “comfort” to someone in a terrible situation?

MARILYN R. GARDNER

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  1. God will never give you more than you can handle. While some may believe it is theologically correct, depending on your definitions, it is singularly unhelpful to the person who is neck-deep in a crisis, trying to swim against a Tsunami. A wonderful phrase recently came from Support for Special Needs. They suggest changing this from “God will never give you more than you can handle” to “Let me come over and help you do some laundry.” This strikes me as even more theologically correct.
  2. It gets better. Yes, yes it does. But right then, it’s not better. And before it gets better, it may get way worse.
  3. When God shuts a door, he opens a window. Maybe, but maybe not. Maybe he just shuts a door. Maybe there is no window. There was no window for Job. There was a cosmic battle that raged as he sat in distress. There…

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